Missing GESTATION Sarah who live in PEBU community who have an issue concerning her gestation period that lead her to fall short of been pregnant due to missed of her periods. Sarah a 20 years old student who started two months before finding out she was pregnant. She told me that she had not seen her periods for two months. And her greatest fear is that she doesn’t want her parent to known about this pregnant because of the position of his father as a head in the community, she took countless tests and even went to a nurse to do a more accurate pregnancy test. She told me that everything came back positive and clean. And she started to feel very foggy, crampy, sick to her stomach, she told me she could not hold anything down and she went to the hospital due to it being so late. Where it took roughly 3 hours to figure out, she was 6 weeks pregnant. she cried. And her mom was present, and she cried. She told me that she felt like she was not with herself for a moment, scared and her heart was so heavy that she couldn’t control her feelings or thoughts that they were running through his head at a time and never knew why she was involved in this issues at this early stage. Her mother took her home with discouraged mind not letting her father got to known about this pregnancy, because it will be a big problem and disgrace for the family as whole, so Sarah suggested that abortion is the only way out to maintain integrity and the proud of the family, so she contacted one of my CBM by the name of JOHN and both of them discussed on the issue and come to an agreement so that they can be able to talk to a nurse to find the solution to the pregnancy. But Sarah’s mother didn’t agree on the idea to do abortion, and to my interview with her she told me she knew it would be a sin, especially growing up in a Christian family its forbidding in their own religion by doing so. And she decided to go home with her daughter, so the next day she make a call to me that finally she had made up her mind because there is no other solution to this issues, so they came the next day and I have to do a conversation with Sarah about her wiliness to do this abortion and she told me that her greatest problem is to let this pregnancy away and go back to school. That was an amazing discussion we have together and after that I take her to the nurse for a proper counseling on how she will be educated on the process involved for her wellbeing, Finally she go through the process successfully without any problem, and after that I told her the best way to prevent this issue of missing period is when you join family plaining that will help you to achieved your gold for the future that will not disturb your dreams. Her mother was so excited to see her daughter with a smiling face and have determination for her education after all she have involved in this issue. With that I introduce the implant to her with a clear interpretation in such a way she will understand more better of such service, and she finally accept to take it with a clear mind. Her mother thanks us for rendering this service which almost free to her daughter and to maintain the good relationship with his father and the moral of the family to the community.

DAY 2: CBMs TRAINING ON SA/PAC MOBILIZATION IN BO* After a successful day engagement yesterday which speaks around the need for access to safe PAC services, the position of our cultural and legal environment and how to overcome it, stigma, doing our job was quite engaging as they gladly shared their views and encounter faced in the cause of their work. Pharm Kunle motivated CBMs and emphasizing the need for increasing effort in their work as CBMs. Today 22nd May 2019, we are going through sessions on SA/PAC client journey and what to do *(led by Miatta Karimu - Bo Midwife)* at the moment. Other sessions to follow are: 👉🏾Speaking about SA/PAC at different level (Diamond) 👉🏾Making SA/PAC referral (Eric) 👉🏾And, unsafe space mapping for each centre and outreach points. (Team) The morning has been so interesting with the Midwife's session. This training is aimed at optimizing our output on SA/PAC services for centres and outreach channels (including PSS). *Targets:* Centre CBMs Outreach CBM Leads YAMOs

MY WAY OF LIFE

I am learning that I am at my best when I am stripped down to a bare soul. It’s when my prayers are most pure. When we begin to long for experiences that reveal the areas we’ve learned to bury and cover we are granted the opportunity to know ourselves more fully. God often sends us into moments of external instability so that inner security can be achieved. _ In the midst of uncertain times there’s always a moment when you let yourself fall completely apart. You admit that you don’t have it all together and that you’re tired of putting your best foot forward. In that moment you believe you’re venting, but without knowing it your release of those words take the sting out of fear and allow you to finally be real...bare...open...free.. _ Then you realize that what you’ve kept locked within had too much power. It convinced you that losing it all was possible, but the truth refuses to be hidden and will fight until it’s brought to the surface. _ Healing cannot begin until the facade ends and honesty begins. Let this serve as a reminder that you are your most beautiful when your sole is bare and heart is open to change. Take the steps required to lean in to your pain so that you can extract the purpose that can set another soul free.”

ADMIRATION ISSUSES

Everyone disagrees in a relationship, but not everyone knows how to make up. How you handle disagreements determines how healthy the relationship is. Have someone that is matured enough to say "this is our problem, and this is how we are gonna fix it". Cuz being in a relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable can be like trying to drive a car with no tires. So before you assume, learn the facts! Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel their pain. And before you leave commit to staying. It takes two to fight for a relationship. If you're fighting by yourself, you will end up by yourself. Our imperfections and flaws makes us humans. Finding someone who can and will love you despite all your imperfections is a hard task. Whether it's a current or a past relationship, if you harbor bad feelings toward another person, gratitude will eliminate those feelings. You point the finger at her and say she's being "emotional" as a way of you avoiding the real issue...the issue of you and your actions being inconsiderate of her feelings. If you fix that issue, the rest will resolve itself. Don’t blame her if she is having second thoughts of you. Don’t act as if it is not you who made her feel that way. You tell her you love her but you’re showing otherwise. You tell her that she’s making everything a big deal. You are ignoring her little sighs. She’s sorry that she gets jealous easily. She’s sorry that she is being overprotective. She is sorry for being upset on little things. She has failed relationships before that is why she hates the idea of seeing the same signs again. She knows if it will lead to the same pattern. She loves you but she tries to build her walls again. She wants to protect her heart. She does not like the feeling of being broken again. She does not want to end the relationship but she just wanted to have a break. To find herself. She just wanted some time with herself. If she's upset because you keep doing the same thing over and over, knowing that it bothers her, Is her reaction really the problem? If she's been trying to tell you how she feels and you have consistently ignored her and disregarded her feelings, is her reaction really the problem?

“A true friend never gets in your way unless you happen to be going down

Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.”

Thank you so much for your care, kindness, and for being such an amazing classmate. I just wanted you to know that I am happy to have such a wonderful person in my life. I will remember you in my thoughts forever. Thank you. For being you. For being the most wonderful best friend I could ever ask for.

Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself

At the end of the day, life is about being happy and be who you are, and i feel like we are so blessed to have support the system and the best family to really just support each other no matter what we're going through.

I think that life is difficult. People have challenges. Family members get sick, people get older, you don't always get the job or the promotion that you want. You have conflicts in your life. And really, life is about your resilience and your ability to go through your life and all of the ups and downs with a positive attitude